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One afternoon I was ahead of schedule to leave for the Club. Everett was leaving for school, getting ready for the afternoon session. She [ed: Doris] asked him, "Everett where's your hat?" He replied that the bully kid had taken it and threw it away as he always did. She naturally was upset and tol him go get another hat. She complained that the bully not only picked on Everett, but also had thrown a number of hats away.
So I called Everett to me. I knelt on the floor and said, "Bullies are cowards do don't be afraid of him. If he takes this hat from you. Tell him to go get it. If he refuses, do this." I showed him how to make a fist. And hit him with your right fist. If he is going to throw a punch at you block it with your left and hit him with your right fist. And I went through a short boxing lesson. Doris was mortified. Her thought was on what society would say to have the son of a father who was running a boys club that allowed his son to hit other kids. So I told her he can't go through life having other boys walk over him whenever they decided to do so. Life will be miserable for him. I looked at Everett. Don't be afraid. Stand your ground. You'll be ok. And I left to go to work.
Skip had work to get out, so on the day that i gave Everett a short boxing lesson, he stayed until closing time and we walked home together. Arriving at the house once coats were hung up. He always would ask her if anything special had happened.
Doris said, "He came home with his hat." referring to Everett. He said , Well things seem to be improving. Doris said that the boy took his hat. Everett ordered him to go get it. He refused and Everett hit him and the bully ran and got his hat.
Charlie was taken aback. He was about to say that wasn't good for a man of his position working with boys.
I said I don't think that what happened will become page one. That boy is not going home to tell his parents he got hit because he took another boy's hat and threw it away.
Your dad was right, it's always important to stand up to bullies. Thanks for sharing.Have a wonderful day, Valerie
ReplyDeleteI am glad people didn't like bullies even back then. The sad part is not this story but for all the anti-bully trends there is still so much going around, and in so many ways your dad didn't have to deal with. Thanks for sharing CJ. Hugs-Erika
ReplyDeleteMaybe it's human nature that we have to deal with bullies.
DeleteWhat great advice. The more I hear about your father, the more I respect him.
ReplyDeleteHe would be pleased to hear that.
Deletedad did right in teaching Everett some "street cred" and he was correct that if Everett let people walk all over///bully him; he'd rue the day. I honestly thought when I saw the photo, you were going to say someone had their tongue stuck to a pole !!!!!! ☺☺☺♥♥♥
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DeleteGood for your father! :D
ReplyDeleteHe always watched out for his little brothers.
DeleteI'm not sure if you know this or not, but I've been standing up to bullies much of my life. I've even been threatened and one guy was going to swing his baseball bat at me when I got his wife out of an abusive home. GOOD for your dad. You learned well from him, I'm sure. He was marvelous.
ReplyDeletethat must have been very scary. GOOD for you!
DeleteYour dad was a great person! Good for him to stand up to bullies!!
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